Remi Born July 16th at 10:32pm
7lb. 3 oz. 19.5in
This was my third Hypnobaby! My first Hypnobaby was born 9 years ago, my second Hypnobaby 7 years ago and I had amazing experiences both times. I used the home study program for my first two children but this time I decided to actually take a class. I highly recommend taking a class if you can. I feel that I listened to my tracks and practiced a lot more when held accountable. I also learned a lot of new things that I didn’t know before. My instructor, @Carrie Cesario Mendes was also my hypno doula and it made a world of a difference having a doula who truly understood and was passionate about Hypnobabies! Although I had positive experiences with birthing my first two children, this time I had my dream birth! “Visualize your birth” was my favorite track and I listened to it daily in the last few weeks. It is truly amazing what we can manifest through visualization because everything went almost exactly as I had envisioned. Birthing my daughter was the most empowering and spiritual experience of my life!
From the beginning I knew that I wanted a natural water birth for my daughter. I was very disappointed to find out that according to my hospital’s policy I was only allowed to “labor” in the tub but not actually give birth in the tub. My midwife told me that they would have to get me out of the tub before I started pushing. A home birth was not really an option for me because I personally feel more comfortable birthing in a hospital setting. Still, I continued to visualize a water birth at the hospital while listening to my Hypnobabies tracks. During one of my weekly Hypnobabies classes the topic of catching your own baby came up and it really stuck with me. So I also started to visualize pushing my baby out and pulling her up to my chest myself.
During my last month of my pregnancy I was experiencing prodromal labor. Lots of inconsistent waves starting in the evening and dying off by the morning. It was getting to be really physically and emotionally exhausting because I would have lots of sleepless nights with waves that didn’t result in going into my birthing time. At week 40 I was tired, cranky, anxious, and not feeling quite myself anymore. I was listening to Hypnobabies tracks every single day and “Come out Baby” was played several times a day for the last two weeks because I was feeling desperate for my baby girl to make her debut. On Sunday, July 14th I met with my hypno doula, Carrie for a hypnosis session. After our session I felt my anxieties fade away.
My husband started his paternity leave that following day so we dropped off our kids at summer camp and decided to spend the day at the beach walking down the pier. It was such a nice moment for us to relax and connect. After the hypnotherapy session and therapeutic beach walk I felt that I was finally mentally in a good place for baby girl to make her debut.
That afternoon I had a little bit of bloody show and I started getting some stronger waves but they were not coming consistently so I rode the waves all night listening to the Hypnobabies tracks. I decided to go into the midwives office the next morning, July 16th. I was feeling waves every 10 minutes or so. The midwife did a vaginal exam and told me that I was about 3cm dialated 50% effaced. After my appointment we decided to go to the mall to have lunch and do some walking to move things along.
Once at home the waves were coming every 4-6 minutes so I took a shower, got all of our stuff ready and headed over to the hospital. Once I got in the car and put my headphones on I was totally in the zone. My waves were coming every five minutes at this point. There was a bit of traffic so it was about 5:00pm when we arrived at the hospital.
We had prepared snacks and drinks to bring to the nurses and they really seemed to appreciate the gesture. I was also really glad that I did the registration and paperwork before I went into the hospital since I didn’t have to bother with any of that once I arrived. When we were admitted, the nurse immediately asked us “What would you like us to call contractions?” and my husband asked her to call them “waves.” The nurses and staff at the hospital were amazing and very considerate of our Hypnobirth and birthing plan! The nurse did a vaginal exam and I was 4cm dilated and 60% effaced and -2 station. They gave me the option to go home and labor at home but I preferred to stay at the hospital at that point.
I was very focused and in the hypnosis zone until my midwife walked in. She was so warm and friendly and wanted to chit chat with me. Although I appreciated her friendliness I was completely pulled out of the zone and switched over to my “thinking brain!” My waves seemed to come to a complete stop and the midwife again recommended that I go home to labor which I really did not want to do. At about 6pm Carrie (my hypno doula) arrived to save the day. She came with a suitcase full of her tools, a peanut ball, a birthing tool, and most importantly her presence. As soon as Carrie arrived she set a different tone in the room and helped me get right back into the zone. I was listening to hypnobabies tracks on my headphones while she was reciting affirmations to me. I liked having both voices speaking to me since it gave me a continuous stream of suggestions and affirmations.
Carrie had me do some Spinning Babies moves to get the baby to come down further. We did the side lying releases, shaking the apple tree and the abdominal lift and tucks. I’m not going to lie, the abdominal lift and tucks were quite intense and I felt some pain when we did these. Once the nurses blew up and filled the birthing tub I stepped inside and felt such a relief! The warm water was really soothing and felt so relaxing. Carrie poured warm water on my back while my husband held my hand and I was able to completely focus on my birthing time. My midwife and nurse sat on the bed just observing for about an hour when they decided to step out. They must have figured that I had quite a bit of time left until I started pushing.
Soon after the midwives stepped out, I started feeling the urge to push. I decided to just listen to my body and let it do what it wanted to. I wasn’t making any loud sounds or looking like I was in distress so even my husband and my doula didn’t realize right away that I was pushing. I wasn’t feeling any pain. It just felt like intense pressure.
After pushing for about 10 minutes (or less) I felt the baby’s head bulging out. I put my right hand below and felt her face. Her tiny nose and mouth! I was so excited to meet her! I pushed about two more times and felt her coming! I reached with both hands and pulled her right up to my chest saying “Hi Sweetie!” I was just so happy she was finally here! I was blissed out with her on my chest when my husband said “Her cord!” and I noticed that the cord was wrapped around her neck twice. I knew from my Hypnobabies class that a cord around the neck was very common and that it’s unlikely to cause any problems so I didn’t panic. Just then the nurse and midwife rushed in to find me with a baby on my chest. She quickly came over and unraveled the cord from around Remi’s neck. Right after she was untangled she let out a cry and my heart just melted.
We waited for the cord to stop pulsating and my husband cut the cord. Remi was alert and latched on right away. Carrie massaged my legs with Cypress essential oils while I birthed the placenta. The midwife said I had a minor first degree tear. I think having a water birth really helped with the tearing and recovery.
Remi was a perfect 7lbs. 3oz. despite my gestational diabetes. She was born at 10:32pm. It was less than 6 hours since we arrived at the hospital and everything went so quickly and smoothly! Remi’s birth was everything I had ever dreamed of. I ended up having that waterbirth that I wanted so badly and even got to “catch” her myself!
My older children are over the moon to have a baby sister and our family finally feels complete.
Thank you Hypnobabies and Carrie Cesario Mendes!
Lucas’ guess date was June 5, 2016. Because I didn’t have him on this day I had a non stress test scheduled for the following Monday. During the regularly scheduled 40 week appointment, my OB talked about the stress test and mentioned a possible induction. Knowing I definitely did not want to be induced medically, I decided it was time to start walking to induce naturally. On the 8th of June my mom, my stepsister, and I walked about 4 or 5 miles. At 5:30 in the evening I was laying on the couch and felt a pop and a huge gush. MY WATER BROKE! Little did I know I had been in early birthing. My pressure waves were consistently 20 minutes apart, but I attributed this to walking. As soon as my water broke I got up and went to the bathroom and then got in the shower. As soon as my water broke my pressure waves got closer and stronger. From 5 minutes apart to 4 1/2 minutes apart. I enjoyed the hot shower for about an hour and then lied down and listened to my Fear Clearing track and got into deep hypnosis. I hadn’t felt Lucas move in a while so Cameron called the doctor on call and was told to take me to the hospital. On the way to the hospital I listened to Birthing Day Affirmations. I felt so calm, confident, and in control. We went straight to triage where I was checked for progression and was admitted. While in triage I listened to my Special Safe Place. I enjoyed being able to move during pressure waves so I kept my switch in the middle for the majority of my birthing process. Once in my room the intensity of the pressure waves seemed to intensify. We kept the Special Safe Place on repeat out loud in the room. I did a lot of swaying and talking to myself. I would repeatedly send my hypno anesthesia to my belly and back. I was able to spend some time in the shower and really enjoyed the relief that the water provided. While in the shower I felt the urge to push but was told not to until I was checked to make sure I was fully dilated. I did not want to know about my progress but assumed I wasn’t there when I was told I could not push. They told my husband, Cameron that I was only at an 8. From 8 cm to 10 cm everyone thought I was taking a nap because I was so deep into hypnosis. This lasted for two hours. The nurse asked if she could check me and I was ready to push! We turned on the Pushing Baby Out track and left it on repeat. I tried different positions and the lithotomy position felt right. I started with open glottis pushing and was encouraged to do “purple pushing”. After a long four hours of pushing I was holding my sweet baby boy. As it turned out he was posterior. I do not recall being informed of this and was unable to try the lift and tuck. The eight hours of active birthing and four of pushing were so worth it! I felt so accomplished and proud of myself. I accomplished a completely un medicated childbirth. I had an easier and more comfortable childbirth because I used Hypnobabies. I have already recommended it to so many people and will continue to do so. I cant imagine what my birth story would have been like if I hadn’t used Hypnobabies. ~ Renee
Our little BOY(!!) arrived on Christmas Eve! His name is James Nihit Lee and we are completely in love :) I wrote out my birth story for you below! I'm so proud of myself and excited I chose to do Hypnobabies. My birthing time was even better than we had hoped for! Thank you so much!!
I had an appt on Dec 23 (my guess date) and at that point the baby was still pretty high and my cervix was completely closed. My doctor shockingly did not mention induction and I was very thankful for that. The next morning, Dec 24, around 6am I started having some mild pressure waves. They continued all morning and afternoon, but were so mild I wasn't sure if this was the real deal. They grew in intensity, but never got unbearable by any means. I slept in between PWs and even fell asleep in the middle of many of them! During each PW I just kept repeating some of the birth affirmations to myself, using the peace cue to help stay relaxed, and praying. I was trying not fight against what my body was trying to accomplish.
Eventually Gary suggested I listen to the Easy First Stage track, just in case this was it. I listened to it, but struggled staying in off switch. I had to keep going into center switch and wasn't confident at all that it was working. It didn't feel like my hypnoaneasthesia was working or like I was in deep hypnosis which, at the time, I found disappointing. Looking back, Hypnobabies was DEFINITELY working! That's why the PWs were so manageable!
My doctor had said to only come in once I was having PWs 4-5 min apart for an hour. He also said to only come in if the PWs were painful enough that I couldn't talk through them. My PWs never got that close together and never got intense like he said they would. At 3:15pm, I was on the couch half asleep during a PW when my water broke. The water was brownish and I knew that meant the baby was in distress. At this point, fear for my baby's safety set in and I started feeling the PWs much more than before and they were painful (I think because I allowed fear to enter into the picture). Even still they weren't painful like my doctor had warned (I'm not sure why this surprised me) and I was able to call the hospital on the way and talk through the PWs.
We got to the hospital at 3:45pm. At that point I was feeling a lot of discomfort and was afraid I'd be like this for hours. I am embarrassed to tell you this, but I got there and on my own asked for an epidural. I thought what I was experiencing was still the early stages of birthing and was scared for when it would get even more intense. I told the nurse I was afraid my cervix was still closed, but she checked and I was fully dilated and ready to go!! I was shocked! I'd gone through the majority of my birthing time at home and even slept through half of it!! I knew I could do it on my own at that point. After 30 min of pushing, James arrived at 4:44pm (59 min after we pulled up to the hospital)! He was 7lbs 9.6oz. He is healthy and passed all his tests with flying colors :)
I did end up with 4th degree tearing, but even that has been manageable pain-wise. I've been using my peace cue to manage some of the discomfort and I really think it's helping.
Thank you so much, Carrie, for all your encouragement and for teaching us. Gary and I are both so happy and feel so blessed to have such a wonderful birthing experience. I hope you and your family had a great Christmas!
I love Carrie and I was able to have my successful homebirth come true with her by my side. Carrie was our Hynobabies instructor, I found her on a random google search AND when my midwife also suggested her I knew it was meant to be. During our class time Carrie made my husband and I so comfortable about birth and gave us tools to have a clear vision of what we wanted for our homebirth. Her voice was so relaxing I knew I had to have her as my Doula. She could put me in the best-relaxed state with just her voice alone. I told my husband I had to have her their for our birth. Our homebirth was a breeze because of Carrie. Before Carrie arrived my husband felt very anxious and unsure of what to do, once Carrie got here he felt reassured and knew she was able to help me and give my husband peace of mind knowing that she had been through this multiple times and was experienced. As soon as my contractions got closer together she was called and never left our side until our baby girl was born. She knew exactly what to do and gave me prompts just when I needed them. She was assertive and recognized what I needed to guide me through each contraction. She went above and beyond my expectations and I cannot wait to have her again for my second homebirth. Thank you Carrie for everything that you’ve done for our family. ~
On 5/9/15 at 8am my water broke... It started out as a small trickle with no contractions. I realized by 9 am my contractions were coming in a lot more. I was very calm and collected. I assumed we had more time to finish any baby stuff this weekend, but we didn't so I wanted to make sure we at least went to Babies R Us (so glad I went because we got a brand new pack and play Trinidad Ed. for $189 org. Price $250) and Target to pickup last minute items. While shopping I started to feel contractions every 2 minutes lasting only 25 seconds. I couldn't focus to time exactly my contractions. After we left Babies R Us, at the car I felt a huge gush of water come out. When I got home I knew we had to pack our bags, finish our laundry and shower. This is when I really started using my hypnobabies techniques. I have listened to these tracks for 21 weeks so I started listening to the tracks to ease me. The contractions really only felt like pressure. By 12:30 my contractions started to feel stronger and closer together but totally doable since I had breaks in between. On the way to the hospital I listened to more relaxing affirmations (this takes away the fear of giving birth). I was admitted into the hospital by 12:45 (after we stopped to get cookies for the nurses at Albertsons). By this time I started feeling pushy. My contractions started feeling more intense... But again it was completely bearable!! It felt like a lot of pressure. By 1:30 my pushy feeling continued and the midwife gave me a vaginal exam - I WAS 7 cm and 100% effaced!!!! They were soooooo surprised!! By 2:00 I started to push baby out asking my hubby to put on the hypnosis track of pushing the baby out. I'm not sure how long I was pushing...everything was so fast! 2:30 baby was here. Amazingly enough there was no ring of fire so many women talk about. It was a tingling feeling. A few pushes and baby was out! I think pushing the baby out too fast caused my tears, but my hypnosis still protected me still during this time. Everything was calm and beautiful, and my baby girl was alert and calm! The midwife and nurses just kept saying: you need to teach other women how to do this.
I believe the key is to just go with the contractions and not being afraid of it. I had my husband and doula remind me to relax. The room was quiet. The nurses were awesome and NEVER pushed me to do anything I didn't want to do. Hypnobabies didn't just prepare me for birth but it kept me calm and focused the entire pregnancy. I slept very well all the way through my pregnancy and didn't let the negative horror birth stories of other people affect me. Remember ladies, our bodies are made for this. Don't be afraid and embrace it all!!
Carrie supported my family and I through my second child birthing experience. I wasn't satisfied with my first child birthing experience in the hospital two years ago, so I decided to educate myself more deeply and have a natural birth experience. First, we took Carrie's Hypnobabies class and then we asked Carrie to be our Doula for our big day! The classes were great. It was a few hours once a week that allowed us to educate ourselves, practice techniques, create our birth plan (super helpful for hospital births and doulas) and did I mention RELAX! Carrie was always available to us via e-mail or phone outside of class. As our doula she visited our home to get to know us and understand our birth plan. Carrie was all about giving me and my family the tools and information to plan the birth that we wanted, never forcing her own preferences on us. Carrie is truly on a mission to give every family the birth they want and imagine, and boy, did we get that! I had such a wonderful birth! I was on the fence about a water birth and had communicated in advance that I was open to it, if it felt right when the time came. Carrie suggested it during my birthing experience to help relax me more during the later stage of my birthing when I was fully dilated and I am SO GLAD she did. Being in the tub made such a difference for me! My baby was born in the tub about 30-40 minutes later!"
Of all the choices to have our first child, our wisest was asking Carrie to be our Doula. She was our trusted partner, our mentor, our coach, and our friend through the trials and tribulations to meet our son. Her knowledge and experience guided us through peeks of birthing, and her patience and warmth grounded us during the valleys in-between. While our journey wasn't exactly to plan, the experience was beyond expectations- and Carrie was there every step of the way. Our son is wonderful and the memory of his arrival will always include you.
If you're looking for someone to help you get through birth, Carrie is not for you. But I would never choose anyone else to be there on the day we welcome our baby into the world.
I found Carrie when I was looking for Hypnobabies classes in my area. I was pretty sure I wanted a Hypnobabies birth in my home, but I thought I did not want a doula. My concern was it would minimize my husbands role as my support. Eventually I changed my mind, deciding I would like to have a woman present to reassure me that things were normal and safe. This ended up being one of the best decisions.
Carrie was the instructor for my Hypnobabies class. The class was amazing. Beyond being a powerful tool for birth, it was also a couple hours to be relaxed and get excited about giving birth! Carrie was an awesome instructor AND host. It was always cozy with lots of pillows and tasty, healthy snacks. It felt so much like visiting family, especially when I got to know the other two awesome couples. (I almost chose private classes, but I'm so so glad I did a group class!)
About Carrie as a doula: I saw an ob and a midwife during my pregnancy. At my 40 week appointment, my ob wanted to schedule my induction for the following week. I had no indicators that the baby was in any distress. I wanted to have my baby at home and I had learned in my Hypnobabies class that spontaneous birth of first babies doesn't typically happen at, or before, 41 weeks. I wanted to give my baby a fair chance at picking her own birthday. So when my ob insisted we schedule an induction, I panicked. I started texting Carrie who helped me tremendously. She urged me to call her and we talked about other options and she provided me with several resources. Most importantly, she helped me refocus and find calm. This would become a reoccurring theme in our relationship.
On June 29, I started feeling pressure waves consistently. I text Carrie and she took it completely seriously, as she did the 2-3 previous times I text her saying "I don't know, but this might be it". She never made me feel silly about "first time mother" questions. Things picked up and I text her again the following day and she came over. When things stalled out, she had lots of tools for getting things moving again. No matter how spaced out things got, Carrie did not leave. That evening, things really picked up, and would continue to be pretty intense for the next two days. Carries hypnosis scripts carried me through. She was there by the bathtub, by the bed, playing the Hypnobabies tracks, helping my husband, and always focused on my needs. When I got discouraged, she was there for support. When I was feeling strong, she was my biggest cheerleader. Her presence was always warm and calm even when hours became days.
During the last six hours of my birthing time, everyone was exhausted , but her and my husband took shifts by the pool. My husband could not have done this alone. This was also the most magical time of my birth. If you're wondering HYPNOBABIES WORKS. I was in a beautiful hypnosis and in this time all I needed was quiet, the scent of lavender, and water. And that's exactly what was provided.
Shortly thereafter the midwife came, Carrie tied back my hair and started a camera, I pushed, and horray! In the afternoon of July 1, there was my beautiful 9 pound, 3 ounce baby girl! Carrie stayed for several more hours, helping with post partum recovery. In fact, at one point, while she was tidying up I had to insist she go home and rest.
So, if you're pregnant and reading this wondering will Carrie help you "get through" birth? No. She will be there, experiencing it with you. She's there for the marathon, not the finish line. And what an awesome marathon it will be!
We couldn’t have asked for a more passionate and enthusiastic birth educator and doula! Carrie was such a great support to us not only during the birth but also during the pregnancy and those first few trying days after birth, she really is the total package and why we choose her.
During the hipnobabies training Carrie really teaches you the tools you need to stay calm and relaxed, she also will help guide you with all the millions of questions a new soon to be mom has.
Our daughter flipped breech and after a lot of efforts to get her turned naturally it just didn’t happen. Carrie was with me step by step when I had an inversion preformed. She helped me to stay calm and relaxed and we successfully got the baby back in to place. Carries support, knowledge and encouragement was so helpful during this process.
The birth of our daughter didn’t go as planned as I’m sure most don’t, but Carrie was so supportive and flexible to meet our needs through the process. Carrie is not afraid to dive in and help where she’s needed, even in those most difficult moments that most would shy away from. We feel very luck to have had Carrie be apart of this special and life changing moment and we consider her a forever friend.
My Husband and I were looking to have a natural birth for our first child. We wanted to find an instructor who had used Hypnobabies and that we could relate to. We were planning to have a water birth and Carrie was our Hypnobabies Instructor and our Doula. I was nervous as most first time moms are about the pregnancy and birth, and Carrie was so warm, caring, professional, and informative. She gave me the tools to be confident and proactive about my birth experience. I learned so much from her and her Hypnobabies class.
Initially, I was debating if I really needed a Doula for my birth. I figured that having my husband there was enough. Boy was I wrong! Thank goodness I decided to ask Carrie to be my Doula. I had several false alarms (braxton hicks) at all hours of the day and night and Carrie was there every time with me and my husband at the birthing center offering support and guidance. When I finally went into my birthing time, having Carrie there to help me use my Hypnobabies and also to help my husband so that he could have a break was great. I couldn't have asked for a better Doula and having Carrie there was the best thing I could have done for my birthing time. From my experience, it's best to have the same person for both as an instrucor and as a Doula, because you have already established a rapport with each other. I highly recommend Carrie as a Hypnobabies Instructor and a Doula! Thanks to Carrie, I had a wonderful birthing experience.